SM
older than me
has a car
can hold, and has a job
doesn't live with his parents
has goals
can converse easily with me

that's all i can think of that really matters to me anymore when it comes to finding a mate. i'm so sick of investing my precious time on failed relationships. it's either me (highly possible) or what i'm looking for. i've long since grown out of the whole "bad boy" thing or whatever...i've learned a lot from my lengthy divorce process, and i feel like i possess a better outlook on things. i'm much more open minded, but i'm still weary of being hurt. i want something tangible to grasp onto. when i got married the first time, i was ready to be married. i was at a place in my life where marriage and (eventually) a family were in my near future, or so i thought. i'm not upset about it anymore, but i am still ready for those things. not marriage, probably, at least not for a long time, but a stable, long-term relationship. so in the mean time i'll be working on myself while the search commences to find a partner for lauren.
maybe it's just this time of year. i hate my birthday time of year. this feels like a midlife crisis.
and on a side note* i never made a list before of requirements, and i didn't because i always expected "the one" to be an exception to those rules (list, whatever), OR that just doesn't work...so that's why there's a list now. we'll see how it goes